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Conquering Deployment Blues

I’ve been feeling kinda down lately. Deployment blues got the best of me. My husband missed my birthday and some very important events in our son’s life. I’m not even going to backtrack and mention the holidays.

I talked to one of my military spouse friends about how I was feeling. She could relate on a personal level because she’s been through it more times than what is fair. But little did I know about her plan to lift my spirits…

My friend rallied up our other military spouse friends and planned a surprise birthday party for me!

They coordinated with my mother-in-law, who happened to be in town visiting. My mother-in-law went outside for something and came back in with about 12 people following her, all good friends of mine! I was so surprised!

One of my friends spent the whole morning cooking fried chicken, cabbage, yams, and macaroni and cheese. My mother-in-law made sweet potato pies and a baked chicken. Other friends came through the door with cups, plates, ice, silverware, flowers, cards, and everything else you need to throw a party.

Here is my birthday cake:

Birthday Cake

My Birthday Cake…See the Sweet Potato Pie in the Background?

I thank God for my friends! I was feeling so down before they came in the door! All I could think of was the trip my husband and I planned for my birthday and how we had to cancel it at the last minute. I felt lonely and depressed. But God touched the hearts of my friends and they came through, showing me His love in my time of need.

Having a good network of friends is important. One of my former pastors used to say, “The banana that gets separated from the bunch gets peeled and eaten.”

If you are feeling lonely and depressed, I encourage you to get in the company of those that love and care about you. It will definitely brighten your outlook!

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  • quiet spirit April 15, 2011, 4:10 PM

    Happy Belated Birthday to you. Surprise parties are awesome. I have been in on a couple of them. A women’s Bible Study I participated in threw a surprise BD for me when I turned 50. I was speechless. I know you will always remember this birthday.

  • Amber April 11, 2011, 10:50 PM

    Happy Birthday!
    What a beautiful cake!
    Sorry hubby could not be there to celebrate it with you but so glad to hear you have some great friends who made the time to make your birthday a special one!
    Happy Birthday!!

  • Christina April 11, 2011, 8:00 PM

    Happy Birthday. You have some awesome friends. Who made the beautiful cake?

  • Bitterroot Mama April 11, 2011, 12:47 PM

    What a wonderful surprise! I hope that things get better for you. And happy belated birthday!

    • Tonya April 11, 2011, 7:18 PM

      Thank you! It was a wonderful surprise that was just in time.

  • laVender April 11, 2011, 7:22 AM

    What a blessing! I can look back on the few birthdays I missed and thank God they were few. As a previous active duty member, the feeling is just as horrible knowing you ‘should’ be there, but can’t.
    By the way, the cake is beautiful!!!

    • Tonya April 11, 2011, 7:15 PM

      Thanks! My husband felt so bad, but it wasn’t his fault. I always try to make sure that I consider his feelings too whenever I get frustrated about him not being home.

  • Amanda April 11, 2011, 6:52 AM

    I’m glad it worked out for you! Friends like that are the best

    • Tonya April 11, 2011, 7:14 PM

      Definitely! Everybody needs friends like that! 🙂

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