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The Need to Please

We all are born with the innate need to please.

When we are children, we desire to please our parents. Even my two year old desires to please me by doing his “chores” around the house. He claps for himself after he does them and looks at me for approval after he’s done. If I don’t respond right away or express my appreciation, his feelings are hurt.

When we are older and in school, we feel the need to please. Some of us had friends that we shouldn’t have had in school, but we felt the need to please them and be accepted in the “in crowd.”

We do our best at work because we want to please our boss so that we can be looked upon favorably when it comes time for raises and bonuses, or the dreaded layoffs.

The need to please can work to our disadvantage. Sometimes, we hold back from saying things that we should have said, or hold back from doing things that we should have done, just because we want to please people and be accepted.

But what if we took all the energy we take in people pleasing and put it into pleasing God?

He desires that we spend time with him.We don’t have to compete for time with God. He’s always there for us and there is no popularity contest with Him.

Do your best at work, but work as unto the Lord. Trust Him to be your source, not your boss or employer. God can provide for you even when you are unemployed. Promotions come from above.

Take some time this week to make a conscious effort to please God in all that you do. Don’t worry about pleasing people. Only what you do for God will last!

Romans 12:2 NLT – Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

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  • Amber June 17, 2009, 10:52 PM

    Thank you for that post,
    It has come at a needed time for me. Such a great reminder! I spend too much trying to please others and not enough time working to please the one who I should be.

    Thank You

  • Anonymous June 17, 2009, 6:22 PM

    The more you do for people the more
    they expect you to do. They have no
    concerns for your feeling and they will use you if you let them. Follow your heart and use good judgement. Pray about it and let the LORD lead you in the right direction.
    mama dearest.

  • Proverbs 27:19 June 17, 2009, 4:03 PM


    You have made a very profound observation. I feel ya!


  • D. June 17, 2009, 10:27 AM

    Hello my name is Derrick. I like the post, and yes we as Christians need to spend more time with the King of King and the Lord of Lords.

  • Epiphany June 17, 2009, 5:20 AM

    Great post. It echoes my "current passion" on Christians who please the world with their politically correct opinions these days. In our attempts to please everyone and make friends some have lost the true Gospel.

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