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Shoulda, Coulda, Wouldas

The below quote is one of my favorites. I’ve looked at many different websites to find out who actually said it and saw several persons listed, from Bill Keane, to Eleanor Roosevelt, to Joan Rivers. Despite who actually said it, the quote has a profound message.

Yesterday is history,
Tomorrow is a mystery,
Today is God’s gift,
That’s why we call it the present!


Sometimes, we spend the present, looking back at yesterday.

We shoulda, coulda, woulda graduated from college. We shoulda, coulda, woulda took that job. We shoulda, coulda, woulda spent more time with family. We shoulda, coulda, woulda spent our money more wisely.

We even shoulda, coulda, woulda on other people. My mom shoulda, coulda, woulda. My dad shoulda, coulda, woulda. President Bush shoulda, coulda, woulda. And the list goes on and on…

Life is filled with shouldas, coulda, wouldas. Some people call them regrets. But when do you get past the shouldas, coulda, wouldas?

You can’t go back and change anything that happened in the past, so why cry over spilled milk? It’s already on the floor.

Are you going to mop up the mess and buy some new milk? Or are you going to let it stay on the floor and cause a slip or fall hazard to others?

Now I’m not saying that it is wrong to reflect on the past. We learn a lot from our past mistakes. But we can’t stay there forever. We should only be looking back to the past to help improve our today and give hope for tomorrow.

If you feel like you missed the mark and you find yourself doing a lot of shoulda, coulda, wouldas, choose to start over again today. Don’t let guilt and regret rule your life.

Let’s take our yesterdays and learn from them so that we can enjoy the gift of the present God has given us in today. Let’s move forward.

Ricardo Sanchez has a song out that beautifully illustrates this post. I posted it below for you to view. Have a blessed day!

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  • Martha May 24, 2009, 5:31 PM

    Yep, this post definitely suited my post for today. You’re right, no use crying over spilled milk :o) time to clean up and buy some chocolate milk 😉 great post hon!

  • Christian Mommy Writer May 23, 2009, 2:28 PM

    Thanks for the comments ladies!
    @Momsweb – LOL! 🙂 Thanks for the link.

  • Kennisha Hill May 22, 2009, 8:56 PM

    This is such an important message! I’m finding that a lot of people hang on to past regret. But you are so right. It’s time to move forward and stop looking back! Amen sis!

    Have a great weekend!


  • MOMSWEB May 22, 2009, 2:57 PM

    Wooonderful post and so true! I shoulda, woulda, coulda dropped by yesterday to read it, but I enjoyed it TODAY (smile).

    p.s. I linked your military page under military resources. Thanks for being a resource!

  • Anonymous May 22, 2009, 11:32 AM

    Awesome, awesome post! This is a message that really resonates with me and so liberating too!

    Have a fantastic week-end.


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