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A Marriage Package Deal: My Husband & Uncle Sam

Many years ago, I was sure that I would NEVER marry a man in the military. Besides, I was not going to be pregnant all by myself, while he is off in a foreign land fighting in a war! I would not even date military guys…until I met my husband. He was a great friend and I enjoyed his company. He used stealth tactics to market himself as the man of my dreams. He was persistent like you wouldn’t believe, until I finally gave in and released myself from fear. It has been almost six years since I officially joined the ranks of military spouses throughout the world.

Military spouses face unique challenges that others outside of military circles may not understand. I was very excited when First Lady Michelle Obama expressed an interest in addressing these challenges. Finally, someone is taking notice.

Now don’t get me wrong. There are many advantages to being a military spouse. Military families get to travel throughout the world, basically for free. We have some say as to where we go, but ultimately, the needs of Uncle Sam dictate where we reside. As for me and my family, the traveling has helped us to become well rounded. We have friends all over the world from many diverse cultural backgrounds.

Because we move so often, it has helped my husband and me to develop a very strong relationship. We are best friends and that is a good thing. When we decided to enlarge our family, we did not have to worry about the expense of doctor’s appointments and the delivery. Tricare Prime took care of everything. I don’t know of any other insurance plan in which this could happen. I know of people that are still paying for the birth of their child, many years after the child is born.

There are some challenges that come along with being a military spouse. We often face involuntary separation from our spouses and it is very easy to get isolated and fall through the cracks. Throughout the week, I will discuss this more at length with suggestions on how military spouses can thrive during these times.


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  • Luschka March 3, 2010, 2:16 AM

    I grew up a military child and although I loved the moving and still do and get very antsy when I'm anywhere too long, I decided I'd never marry military. Having grown up military having an artsy husband is sometimes totally frustrating too! And I miss the sense of community and the opportunities, but for me having my husband at home is much more importnat, and I hope to be able to teach my daughter a sense of endurance and 'seeing things through' that I never developed because, well, it didn't matter, since we'd be moving soon anyway!

    Stopping by from SITS

  • real talk March 14, 2009, 9:49 AM

    Hey Tonya,

    I love your blog, very informative and honest. You know i can relate first hand on being married to a military man. It is not easy, every time Rico leaves we always have to start back over again getting to know each other. But thank you for writing on this topic. please post more things about “inside the life of a military wife” for others to understand what we deal with.

    Love you,

    your sister-in-law

  • Anonymous March 2, 2009, 10:10 PM

    Hi Tonya! You have a great blog! I look forward to reading more of your entries!

    This was certainly an excellent and encouraging article on being married to a military man. I personally can’t relate because my husband is a civilian, but, I’m sure those who are in your shoes can truly benefit! What a great encouragement. I’ll definitely chime in through the week!

    Have a blessed week!


  • 3L March 2, 2009, 4:47 AM

    I have a few friends who are military spouses. The love for their husband was solid but they were sad when their husbands were gone. Nice post, I am really enjoying your blog.

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